On Monday, my husband and I will have the final meeting for my son’s evaluation for special needs in the public school district. I don’t think he is going to qualify for services (yet?) and to be honest, that is okay with me. Even though I feel like he should qualify, and I feel that they do not have the full picture, I am going to leave it at their decision.
Like I have written before, I am mainly confused about my son’s behavior problems. He doesn’t fit perfectly into a little category; for every symptom that he does have, there always seems to be an exception. Sometimes he just seems “normal.” Right now we are approaching it as a sensory disorder, but to be honest, I don’t know how well that diagnosis fits. I suspect, that when the time comes, he may be diagnosed with ADHD, but he is a little young at the moment.
So of course, because he doesn’t fit well into categories, I am pretty sure he wont qualify for special education at school.
He excelled at most of the evaluation tests they gave him and so he doesn’t fall under their definition of having a developmental disorder. He might qualify in two other categories, but the social worker already (for)warned me that those are categories that are hard to qualify preschool age children.
But I am not fighting it.
I am not going to fight it when they say he doesn’t qualify because, to be honest, I am tired. That may not be a good reason not to fight it, but it is the truth. I don’t want to fight it, not because I don’t think I have cause, but because at this point, I don’t have the energy to invest in fighting it.
What I do have, though, is a plan.
We currently get services through a local organization through our insurance. We are lucky we can do that. The individual therapy seems to be helping, if at least, moderately. Since he left preschool, his anxiety has decreased and his sleeping, eating and physical troubles have reduced. He is on the waiting list for occupational therapy. If that doesn’t come through soon, I might have his doctor, who is very supportive, write a prescription for OT in the meantime. He is also signed up for preschool through the public school system, and their social worker assured me that they do not expel preschoolers.
In the summer, he is signed up for track. His major complaint with most other sports is that he doesn’t get to run enough (this is a kid who ran a quarter marathon at 3, accidentally), so I hope that this will be a good fit for him. You can’t get more running than track!
So, when they tell me those dreaded words on Monday, that he doesn’t qualify, I wont be disappointed. I will know where I need to go and what I need to do, and I am not going to fight their findings.